When I moved to LA, I had some preconceived ideas about plastic people. I did not expect it to be Chicago. What’s the point of leaving Chg to make the new place Chg? It’s like Americans that go to Europe and complain it’s not the US. That’s where ‘stupid American tourist’ came from. I did meet typical Los Angelinos, but I also met some good hearted people that I still consider good friends. Moving is like a new relationship, you can’t hold the new boyfriend to the standards of the old boyfriend. Every city I’ve lived in had pros and cons. The key is how to make the best of the pros. If the cons outweigh the pros, then time to relocate.
For what I want to do in my life, NYC is where I need to be. However, I miss the genuineness of friendships and every day civility from strangers that I could expect in the Midwest or south. NYC is the concrete jungle. If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere because NYC does not make it easy to transition at all.